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Monday, August 1, 2011
Tooth!
Last night I felt Lillian's first tooth!!! Her front left tooth came in! Eeek. She's getting so big!
Thursday, July 28, 2011
6 month (-1 week) appt
We went in Wednesday for Lillian's weight check appointment and the doctor decided to turn it into her 6 month well baby visit.
Here are her 6 month (-1 week) stat's:
Weight: 12lbs, 9oz (< 5%)
Height: 24 3/4 (10-25%)
Head: 17 1/4 (75-90%)
So she gained 1lb in a month! The doctor was really pleased with her weight gain and said we should stay the course. She also said we could advance to Stage 2 food, which Lillian will be excited about because it will provide her some additional options at meal time.
And now a few picts from Wednesday...
A little sleep update:
Here are her 6 month (-1 week) stat's:
Weight: 12lbs, 9oz (< 5%)
Height: 24 3/4 (10-25%)
Head: 17 1/4 (75-90%)
So she gained 1lb in a month! The doctor was really pleased with her weight gain and said we should stay the course. She also said we could advance to Stage 2 food, which Lillian will be excited about because it will provide her some additional options at meal time.
And now a few picts from Wednesday...
It's spirit week at school and Wednesday you had to wear you're favorite team colors. DH was so excited to dress Lillian up in her UK gear!
Wednesday night - Went down without crying, stirred at 10:30 to roll onto her stomach, and slept with out a peep until 6:00am. It was AMAZING!!! But this was probably because she was tired from her shots
Thursday night - Went down without crying, woke up at 1:30 - after 3 intervals finally fell back asleep without a paci, woke up at 5:40 - after 1 interval fell back asleep with a paci. Although I probably could have just gotten up with her at 5:40, I'm trying to teach her we don't get up until 6:30. Since she went right back to bed I know she's still tired when she gets up early.
I'm trying to stop replacing the paci during the night wakings so hopefully we can conquer that demon this weekend!
Monday, July 25, 2011
Sleep Training - Ferber Method - Night 5
Two steps forward, 1 step back.
Last night was kind of a bad night. Not compared to her waking up 6+ times like she did in our pre-ferber days, but compared to our new standard it wasn't great.
Fifth night intervals - 7, 9, 11
8:00 pm - Lillian went down without any tears.
8:30 pm - Lillian woke up, went in after her first interval, replaced the paci and she fell right asleep.
10:30 pm - Lillian woke up, went in after her first interval, replaced the paci and she fell back asleep
2:20 am - Lillian woke up, went in after her first interval, replaced the paci and she fell back asleep
4:45 - Lillian woke up. Checked on her at 7 minutes, 9 minutes and she fell asleep during her 11 minute interval. I was really tempted to just pick her up and put her in my bed because I was really tired. But I resisted and she finally fell back asleep.
A couple of things I've noticed:
- Lilllin seems to sleep better on her stomach. I may just start putting her down that way because half the flailing around seems to be her trying to get onto her stomach when she wakes up on her back.
- I recently started putting her in Pampers Dry Max diapers to go to bed. I think these keep her drier and I wonder if the fussiness last night related to her being put to bed in her normal Pampers Swaddlers.
- I need to get a normal sound machine because I think the sleep sheep turning off isn't helping matters. Ferber actually would probably say to eliminate things like a sound machine, but we usually keep her door cracked and the sound echos in the house too much to not have something on in her room.
- I need to get a night light for her room because leaving the bathroom light on puts too much light in the room, but its pitch black if we don't have anything on and I can't see when I go in an sooth her.
I promise I won't keep these updates going for too much longer. It's just helpful for me to be able to look back and see how we've progressed.
Last night was kind of a bad night. Not compared to her waking up 6+ times like she did in our pre-ferber days, but compared to our new standard it wasn't great.
Fifth night intervals - 7, 9, 11
8:00 pm - Lillian went down without any tears.
8:30 pm - Lillian woke up, went in after her first interval, replaced the paci and she fell right asleep.
10:30 pm - Lillian woke up, went in after her first interval, replaced the paci and she fell back asleep
2:20 am - Lillian woke up, went in after her first interval, replaced the paci and she fell back asleep
4:45 - Lillian woke up. Checked on her at 7 minutes, 9 minutes and she fell asleep during her 11 minute interval. I was really tempted to just pick her up and put her in my bed because I was really tired. But I resisted and she finally fell back asleep.
A couple of things I've noticed:
- Lilllin seems to sleep better on her stomach. I may just start putting her down that way because half the flailing around seems to be her trying to get onto her stomach when she wakes up on her back.
- I recently started putting her in Pampers Dry Max diapers to go to bed. I think these keep her drier and I wonder if the fussiness last night related to her being put to bed in her normal Pampers Swaddlers.
- I need to get a normal sound machine because I think the sleep sheep turning off isn't helping matters. Ferber actually would probably say to eliminate things like a sound machine, but we usually keep her door cracked and the sound echos in the house too much to not have something on in her room.
- I need to get a night light for her room because leaving the bathroom light on puts too much light in the room, but its pitch black if we don't have anything on and I can't see when I go in an sooth her.
I promise I won't keep these updates going for too much longer. It's just helpful for me to be able to look back and see how we've progressed.
Sunday, July 24, 2011
Sleep Training - Ferber Method - Night 4
Forth night intervals were 6, 8, 10 minutes.
Lillian went down at 7:45pm without any tears. She stirred a few times through out the night but only fussed a bit and went back to sleep a few minutes after she woke.
4:30 - After the 6 minute interval, I went in & put in her paci. She went straight back to bed.
6:20 - woke up for the day.
Only one real night time waking is a HUGE improvement!! I'm so hopeful we will be sleeping through the night soon!
Lillian went down at 7:45pm without any tears. She stirred a few times through out the night but only fussed a bit and went back to sleep a few minutes after she woke.
4:30 - After the 6 minute interval, I went in & put in her paci. She went straight back to bed.
6:20 - woke up for the day.
Only one real night time waking is a HUGE improvement!! I'm so hopeful we will be sleeping through the night soon!
Saturday, July 23, 2011
Sleep Training - Ferber Method - Night 3
3rd night intervals were: 5, 7, 9 minutes
Lillian missed her normal last afternoon nap, so it was a fight to keep her up until 8pm. My husband bathed her and fed her a bottle around 7:45 and she was sound asleep in bed by 8pm. No crying at all.
She stirred at 2:10 am but put herself back to sleep before we reached the end of the first interval. She never really cried, more like half awake, half asleep fussing.
4:00 am - She woke up. I went in after 6 minutes. I gave her, her pacifier and she fell back asleep.
6:00am - Woke up for the day.
So another big step forward. I'm hopefully we'll get a full night sleep sometime in the next week.
Lillian missed her normal last afternoon nap, so it was a fight to keep her up until 8pm. My husband bathed her and fed her a bottle around 7:45 and she was sound asleep in bed by 8pm. No crying at all.
She stirred at 2:10 am but put herself back to sleep before we reached the end of the first interval. She never really cried, more like half awake, half asleep fussing.
4:00 am - She woke up. I went in after 6 minutes. I gave her, her pacifier and she fell back asleep.
6:00am - Woke up for the day.
So another big step forward. I'm hopefully we'll get a full night sleep sometime in the next week.
Friday, July 22, 2011
Sleep Training - Ferber Method - Night 2
Night two went pretty well. I put Lillian down around 8:30pm since that seemed to work the night before. She'd taken a nap from 5:45-6:30pm, so I figured that was a good bedtime. Because we did 3,5,7 minute intervals Wednesday night, we had to increase the length of the intervals to 4,6,8 minutes for Thursday night.
So our night looked like this:
8:30pm - put her in bed, and checked on her at 4 minutes, 6 minutes and then she fell asleep 2 minutes into her 3rd interval.
2:30 - woke up. Checked on her at 4 minutes and then she fell asleep 4 minutes into her 2nd interval.
4:30 - woke up. Checked on her at 4 mins, 6, mins, 8 min and then she fell asleep around 5 minutes into her 4th interval. This one was tricky because we were creeping close to 5am and I wasn't sure if I should just get her up. If she'd made it to minute 8 of her forth interval I probably would have, but she finally fell back asleep.
6:30am - I went in and woke her up to start her day.
So she still woke up twice, but had a long stretch from 8:30-2:30, so that's progress in the right direction. Ferber says that its important that both parents participate in the sleep training, so my husband took the night time wakings last night. Of course he woke me up because he couldn't remember what intervals he was supposed to be using so I didn't get much continuous sleep, but hopefully we're on track to get some soon!
So our night looked like this:
8:30pm - put her in bed, and checked on her at 4 minutes, 6 minutes and then she fell asleep 2 minutes into her 3rd interval.
2:30 - woke up. Checked on her at 4 minutes and then she fell asleep 4 minutes into her 2nd interval.
4:30 - woke up. Checked on her at 4 mins, 6, mins, 8 min and then she fell asleep around 5 minutes into her 4th interval. This one was tricky because we were creeping close to 5am and I wasn't sure if I should just get her up. If she'd made it to minute 8 of her forth interval I probably would have, but she finally fell back asleep.
6:30am - I went in and woke her up to start her day.
So she still woke up twice, but had a long stretch from 8:30-2:30, so that's progress in the right direction. Ferber says that its important that both parents participate in the sleep training, so my husband took the night time wakings last night. Of course he woke me up because he couldn't remember what intervals he was supposed to be using so I didn't get much continuous sleep, but hopefully we're on track to get some soon!
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Sleep Training - Ferber Method - Night 1
I know this is a very controversial topic, but I thought I would blog about it to give people a 1st hand experience. When researching the ferber method, I couldn't really find a lot of people talking about what their experience with it was. So here's our story...
Lillian started sleeping through the night around 3 months. It was the most wonderful thing in the world. Unfortunately around 4 months, she started waking up again. This coincided with us starting to pack up the old house, so we figured she would get better once we got settled in the new house. At first, she was just waking up once a night, then it was twice a night... and then everything just went to hell. For the last 3 weeks she's been waking up 4-6 times a night. Sometime she was hungry. Sometime she wasn't. Sometimes she could be consoled back to sleep quickly, sometimes she couldn't. Its been a nightmare. I mean seriously. I'm extremely sleep deprived and getting more depressed with each sleepless night. I bought the ferber book a few weeks again because I didn't know what else to do. I read it and it seemed to make sense, but then Lillian got a cold so I didn't want to try it while she already wasn't feeling well.
We had planned to try this weekend, but I decided on the fly to start last night. Lillian went to bed around 8:00pm, and woke up at 8:30 totally inconsolable. Nothing I could do was calming her down so I figured screw it, let's give this thing a try.... so our night looked like this:
8:45 - put her in the bed since she was screaming her head off already. Checked her at following intervals: 3 min, 5 min, 7 min and then she fell asleep at 7 mins (right before I was going to go in).
10:15 - woke up. checked her at the following intervals: 3 min, 5 min, and then she fell asleep at 4 mins
4:15 - woke up. Checked on her at the following intervals: 3 min, 5 min, 7 min, and then she fell asleep at 6 mins. When I went in at 3mins her diaper was really wet so I changed her diaper. While changing the diaper I noticed her feet were cold so I put some socks on her feet before I put her jammies back on. This was probably the hardest waking because she usually eats around this time. But I don't think she needs to eat for nutritional purposes, rather for comfort, so I decided to skip the feeding.
6:30am - went in to wake her up to go to work/daycare. She was still pretty sleepy but when she woke up she was her normal smiley self.
It was really hard to listen to her cry (i turned down the sound on our video monitor down but we share a wall), but overall waking up just 3 times was a HUGE improvement for us. Hopefully we'll continue to improve tonight! I couldn't fall back asleep after her 4:15 waking for about an hour so I'm still pretty tired, but I feel hopeful that this will get the whole house back on track.
Lillian started sleeping through the night around 3 months. It was the most wonderful thing in the world. Unfortunately around 4 months, she started waking up again. This coincided with us starting to pack up the old house, so we figured she would get better once we got settled in the new house. At first, she was just waking up once a night, then it was twice a night... and then everything just went to hell. For the last 3 weeks she's been waking up 4-6 times a night. Sometime she was hungry. Sometime she wasn't. Sometimes she could be consoled back to sleep quickly, sometimes she couldn't. Its been a nightmare. I mean seriously. I'm extremely sleep deprived and getting more depressed with each sleepless night. I bought the ferber book a few weeks again because I didn't know what else to do. I read it and it seemed to make sense, but then Lillian got a cold so I didn't want to try it while she already wasn't feeling well.
We had planned to try this weekend, but I decided on the fly to start last night. Lillian went to bed around 8:00pm, and woke up at 8:30 totally inconsolable. Nothing I could do was calming her down so I figured screw it, let's give this thing a try.... so our night looked like this:
8:45 - put her in the bed since she was screaming her head off already. Checked her at following intervals: 3 min, 5 min, 7 min and then she fell asleep at 7 mins (right before I was going to go in).
10:15 - woke up. checked her at the following intervals: 3 min, 5 min, and then she fell asleep at 4 mins
4:15 - woke up. Checked on her at the following intervals: 3 min, 5 min, 7 min, and then she fell asleep at 6 mins. When I went in at 3mins her diaper was really wet so I changed her diaper. While changing the diaper I noticed her feet were cold so I put some socks on her feet before I put her jammies back on. This was probably the hardest waking because she usually eats around this time. But I don't think she needs to eat for nutritional purposes, rather for comfort, so I decided to skip the feeding.
6:30am - went in to wake her up to go to work/daycare. She was still pretty sleepy but when she woke up she was her normal smiley self.
It was really hard to listen to her cry (i turned down the sound on our video monitor down but we share a wall), but overall waking up just 3 times was a HUGE improvement for us. Hopefully we'll continue to improve tonight! I couldn't fall back asleep after her 4:15 waking for about an hour so I'm still pretty tired, but I feel hopeful that this will get the whole house back on track.
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